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Women are more capable than men of using their raw sexual energy to fuel their every day tasks and passions: they could become so immersed in what they love doing, that the energy previously available for sex becomes now dedicated to a new passion only.
So after discovering that her loss of desire is not due to a sudden fall of your sexual skills, what can you do, as a man, to make her want you again?
1- Make space in your day. In our fast-paced life, sex might become just another item on a busy diary: ‘I have got half an hour on Sunday so we can fit a quickie there.’ How much time do you spend with you partner free of chores and interruptions? Create daily or at least weekly occasions in which you can simply stay together.
2- Reconnect non-sexually. Create opportunities to feel a special sense of connection with you partner. It might be a romantic dinner, a walk in the park, or any other activity you both like. It must be very clear that such pleasant activity is not some kind of extended foreplay which will see you trying to approach her sexually in the end…
3- Create sensual occasions in which full sex is forbidden. There is much more to sex than penetration. Discovering other ways to enjoy each other is fun and it also reduces everyone’s performance anxiety.
4- Discover you conditions for great sex. The fantasy model of sex dictates that we should be able to function and presumably enjoy sex without any special requirements. The reality is that we all have conditions which need to be met in order to have good sex. For example, you probably need to be rested, maybe you prefer to have the light off, and possibly immediately after dinner you are not in the mood. Give it a good thought, find out your very own conditions for great sex, and then discuss the topic with your partner.
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